As I look back on most of the ways I’ve grown in 2020, I am actually astonished. There have been so many. Whereas a year ago I felt like I was drowning and didn’t even know where to start with “working on myself,” now I’m treading water, floating some, and splashing some for fun.
As it turns out, it’s quite clear what area God’s calling me to work on for next year, and I have the capacity to go after it (not being depressed really helps with that). It’s envy. Whether it’s achievement to be the envy or for praise from others, or being envious of others, or even being envious of sharing love–I know it’s something I have to work on. I’ve been married almost 3 years, and it’s still so easy to compare the worst parts of me to the best parts or features or differences of an ex-girlfriend and go down a spiral. I try to pray for those who I’m envious of, but it’s hard to celebrate people that hurt you sometimes. And that’s exactly who I tend to be jealous of, despite my best attempts at forgiveness.
God has not often called me to any kind of extreme fasting (the most is a month to eat meat 2x a week and sweets 1x a week–and I couldn’t do that while nursing…Peeps literally got me through those late night feeds!), but I feel like he is asking me now for a 1-2 week fast in a similar way to seek Him and growth/healing in these areas.
My husband grew up in a home where humility, relationship, and sharing without envy were really celebrated. I did not. But it has affected my happiness and can affect our salvation if we’re not uprooting sin, so here I am. Show me the way, Lord.