Here is what I know: The church loves to talk about getting saved and chains being broken.
But whether through circumstances or warfare or sin or biology, we can end up back in chains.
It’s easy to feel like a “bad Christian,” when “good Christians” are defined as showing the world that they have something no one else does. I am not disputing that, if it’s genuine and not a forced portrayal. We are offered supernatural ways to love, spread peace, and have joy.
But. Sometimes…it’s a testimony to show people that you are just as jacked up as they are, but handling it differently. It’s the person who drags themselves into Bible study and church week after week after forcing themselves out of bed. It’s the person going through a divorce who doesn’t renege his or her faith. It’s the person with the wayward child that they are just trusting to the Lord.
Here is what I know for sure: God doesn’t work the same way all the time, and this last experience taught me that He is skilled at the art of the slow rescue.
I actually feel it these days. I feel happy, and I feel rescued. There is so much gratitude, because I wasn’t sure if I’d ever feel that way again. I felt abandoned and I felt stuck and lonely and if things hadn’t changed in over 1-2 years, were they ever going to get better? And even when they were better, I just felt “okay.”
It was patronizing, but I kept feeling God say “Stay.” Don’t change houses. Don’t move to a more suburban area right now. Don’t persuade your husband to go back to your hometown. Stay in this foreign land.
I wasn’t pulled up from the muck and mire like I was in the past. I was free-falling a long time. When things finally did begin to turn around (emotionally–and some circumstantially), it was more like clinging to a rope and being pulled up inch by inch over the period of a whole nother year.
God taught me how to make different choices when I wanted to wallow or reinforce bad cognitive patterns. He asked me to let go of a lot of stuff I was clinging to for identity. He asked me to get stripped back to develop humility. He asked me to sit with Him at a picnic table, angry or happy, and talk with Him as a Father.
He did the real work of forgiving me, encountering me, and healing me. I just cooperated with Him.
Not very long ago, I was sitting with a patient who complained of overwhelming depression with His medical and social circumstances. We talked about some practical things, but knowing that he was a Catholic, I also felt like I was able to encourage Him by talking about the slow rescue. How God sometimes doesn’t lift us out of that cloud right away, but maybe puts something on the calendar or someone in our path to sustain us. It doesn’t feel like enough at the time, but sustaining is sometimes God’s work too, not just thriving.
We prayed. I felt grateful that God gave me the opportunity–and experience–to encourage when God’s rescue doesn’t look the way we think it should.